Eat

It has been something that I have been pretty adamant about since being a "mom", eating whatever is given to you. Story goes; Lunch needed to be made and shopping wasn't done. Going into the kitchen to throw something together is always fun. Rummaging through the food available I grabbed; whole wheat pasta, veggie burgers, almonds, a can of tomatoes, and a can of black olives. Throwing all of these items together with chicken stock and olive oil for a full pasta, I knew full well that my children might grimace. Granted they would do what they could to keep it on the low, low, but to my surprise they all loved it! The big idea behind having my munchkins eat without complaint is to teach them appreciation. There are so many reasons this means something to me. What days lay ahead that their meals will be with joy no matter the situation because they were taught that food is not to be taken for granted but instead to be valued.

Inspiration on many corners

In our house you can find quick reads by our front door. I pick these books up here and there or am just given them. A new one I just finished, Church Signs is wonderful. Full of photos of many signs from around our nation with creative posts on Welcome boards. One I really appreciated was "The best vitamin for a Christian is B1", and another was "Psalms read here". It has always been a joy for me to be driving down the road and get a little dose of reality with humor behind it. My favorite resides with forgiveness. I am always reminded of how much I need this reviving truth. So, "The best way to get even is to forgive and forget", is the best. It hurts to apologize no matter the circumstance or situation. How true this is when we feel like its not our fault, rarely the case we always have some part, but still. What if you are the wrong one and might get turned away, ouch! But still, God will honor you for it. Humility will bring peace. Peace is something everyone is looking for.

Comfort

It is not wrong in my book to allow my son to stay here in Colorado instead of going with Joshua out of state, (I think...). Luke made a request and I honored it. We live in a fallen world and I understand that I goofed up in marrying someone I would end up separated from before Luke was even a year, however it is what it is. There is no time travel and that would be even messier anyway. Luke does not have the same understanding of who Joshua is that Souriya and Lance do. The distance and idea of him going somewhere he has no developed connection to is what I believe bothers him most. Souriya has tried to no ends to help him get over his fear of traveling somewhere he is not comfortable, this includes multiple calls throughout the day to Mom, all the fun things they will do, family he will see, and the presents too. Souriya has even tried to move him along with setting up Skype "the same way we talk with Uncle Jason, Luke". The truth is, I do question my decision, maybe I should make him go and get to know his other side.

Failure is not an option

When knowing what I want my children to grow up and be, I am not thinking doctors and lawyers and such. I am only thinking value. I believe every individual has value and when we show and tell our children these beliefs we have in them, these truths settle in deep. Some-days are very tough and that is based on my decisions alone. How do you encourage a child to be someone you are acting opposite of? You don't, I suppose that is what helps me be on my best behavior at times. It is what I expect from them. "Well, Angelina you know sometimes you will have to except that these things happen", I have been told on numerous occasions, or, "One of your children may go astray", referring to poor and even worse decisions we make growing up or even as adults. No, I am reminded even last night, failure is not an option. I do not have a plan B, (just in case one does go south and I have to rationalize it in my head so I can sleep at night or explain to my friends and family...) I pray for my children, and believe my prayers are honored. That last sentence in itself could be so much more lengthy. I believe in my children who they will become, the value they have for themselves and how that reflects on how they value all of those around them.

Others

If my children are grown and they value and respect themselves and others I will feel accomplished. Respect of themselves and others means that they value people and are considerate of what the end result will look like for all. That does not mean that, they will be perfect. On the contrary, the more imperfect they are the better. How much more can someone who has flaws and is willing to share them for the good of others relate to them who need relating to, than someone who is as flawed, as we all are, and instead judges to try and make perfect. The point is; I want to raise my children with love, not judgement and condemnation, I believe that if a child and an adult for that matter always feels like they are enough they will strive to be better.

Early morning

Since about 3:40 this morning I have been rambling on and on with the Lord. You know those mornings where there is so much to say but none ever to specific. Yeah, that's me today. I know its the end of the week and am not really sure that I feel accomplished in all that should have been done which calls for a busy and productive day for my munchkins... glad they understand and really try hard to help out with the little guy.

One child

I have shared in my blog that my last son Lathan has been a trying experience for me in motherhood. I have also shared that it is not him at all, only my laziness to follow through. Anyhow as the situation still remains the same, with tweaks coming in quickly, I am grateful that there have been constants to my journey in being a Mama; my other four have been trained well to respect themselves and in turn others. Just recently, going through an ordeal that left me with an unsettling feeling, gave me real perspective on how I am going about training up Lathan and allowing my other munchkins to witness it. Souriya and I were separated. It was a large group and communication was not great. Long story short I now know what moms mean when they say "I have X number of children including my husband". One disobedient child can throw a mom in a wreck if she has no control over. Talk about wanting to pull your hair out. That evening alone was enough to give me a good picture of what I don't want to deal with regularly, but it has been little events that have occurred lately to drive me to get into the right gear.

New Journey

I have been really excited about being conscience with my choice to take a look in a literal mirror and make some changes. The decision to make changes came after coming across a beautiful product, (twice) called Isagenix. Ever since I found out that I was diagnosed with cirrhosis of the liver at the age of 24, my best friend is always looking for "something" that will keep me well. In her gifts to me she had once given me a bottle of Cleanse for Life. I was unaware, as I was everything else that she gifted me with, as to what this product was supposed to do exactly. I took it... occasionally.  When it was gone, I really didn't think about it again. Until I was taking care of a Mary Kay Sister consultant's (who lives out east) Sister-in-law here in Colorado. She shared Isagenix with me and I can not thank her enough. She might not have thought so considering I called her close to two months after we had met and while leaving her the 1st time I said, "Thank you for the information, I'll get back to you". You see just shortly after I had left her, my body started to remind me of how I felt when I was going through some tough days with the Cirrhosis. I remembered her and called her to come over and share with me the product again. She was excited about the weight loss, I wanted to sleep better. The product is food and great food at that. I began with the 9day nutritional cleanse and could not believe how well in three days I was sleeping and overall health that I was feeling. My eyes were also in disbelief because the weight that fell away in those short 11days were nothing short of amazing, the icing on the cake if you will. Looking further into the product, I decided to get my husband some as well as my munchkins, again its just food... but better, because its the stuff you are not getting that you should when you do eat... food!

Regular banter

I made comments that were taken in offense. Only, I was responding in banter. It seems an element was missing from a regular setting of friends. At the end of the evening it was asked of me "What's wrong?", in confusion, I answered that I was fine, but the truth is each time I was accused of being mean I was thinking to myself, "Is that a joke, or did I really say something to bother you?", this to someone who is more than fluid with their own bag of comical remarks. I became indifferent and closed off when it was said, "I'm really tired of you", I was taken back at this point and concluded that I did indeed offend a person very important to me and my family. I was a bit quite with the occasional wisecrack the remainder of the evening and tried to evaluate the situation to see where exactly the root of the problem was, but none of that matters at this point. What does matter is; from one friend to another, I am sorry.

Let go

Our most recent family vehicle was a gift, that was given with perfect timing. As of lately, it had been giving us a bit of trouble. It would decide to stop running or even start, and I would pray "Lord, I know I have come before and asked for favor, I'm here again asking for favor". The van would start. Sometimes right away, sometimes it would take a minute. Well, it came to be that I took it for granted. The engine died and we rolled to the side of the road. I tried to start it but truly for that moment we were stuck. So, Sarina hitched a ride home and came back with another vehicle. The idea was to take care of the van later that day and get the kids home to eat and out of the heat. As she pulled up I turned the key and...started the van. Sarina and I laughed, of course, why not. I made it back to where I needed to be, and while I drove, I talked with God. I let him know I was grateful for the gift at all and every time it had started or kept running. Then the war with myself began, at this point I excluded God from "our"conversation and began thinking about all "my" reasons this was really going to put a damper on me. So not really a conversation so much as whining. When I thought about how I sounded, I stopped, apologized, asked for forgiveness and let the Lord give me peace. "Its all good Angelina, whatever it is, it is. I have got this if you let me." was his response. So, I let go and let God.

Own up

When I do something wrong, it is rare that I am quick to jump to my consequences. Who is though? I believe everyone takes pause. And in that pause so very much goes through my mind. All the reasons why what I did was ok, and how I can justify it. So when in a situation with my munchkins I try to train their thought process to get down to real bottom line. Believe it, if you do not make a point to train yourself to do otherwise you will naturally justify your actions, even if its just a little, you will try and justify. There in lies the problem. So what I tell myself, what I tell my munchkins is; ask yourself what all occurred, not just what happen to you, instead find "your" true error. Then let me know what we need to work out, and we do. This is where I hope I am teaching them self-accountability. It is not what happen to them that puts them in the real situation of jeopardizing their character, its their actions thereafter. 

The 12 pack factor

A favorite person of mine dubbed the phrase "the 12 pack factor" due to a different view point than another. When in business for yourself but with others you rely on people in your field. To show his appreciation, once a month he would grab a case and take it to a business that he worked with on a regular basis. This is something he and his employees would split the cost on. One day one of his employees decided to voice how he did not believe he should share in the cost of the case, for one he did not drink the beer and another, its like paying them, he didn't think it was fair. Well without too much to say in response, our employer in this case no longer included him in the cost, he also no longer valued this employee. The employee did not understand the importance of "the 12 pack factor". What the employee neglected to realize is that is was not payment for anything it was appreciation for everything they provided. Our employer was grateful for the relationship.  I find joy in letting people know I appreciate them but now a bigger grin will cross my face when I think of "the 12 pack factor".

What do you do for a living?

Occasionally I try to take an account of my day literally to see where I was productive and where I was lazy. The reason for this is because when we see our children behaving in a manner we find inappropriate it is frustrating, and more than likely it is what they witness in the home that guides them. My primary job, career, responsibility in life is to train up my children in the way that they should go. My pay day comes regularly, it is the honor and obedience I receive from my children, the appreciation from my husband, smooth days in and outside my house, a comment from another who sees the joy and order we have as a family, the list goes on. Because this is my primary in life its not just being an example, its taking the time to correct them when and wherever there is an occurrence, praising them regularly, holding them accountable, and knowing who they are. For all of this I am more than grateful to my husband who allows me this privileged position.

Consequence

My son Luke believes he will be able to do whatever he wants when he grows up with no consequence. What I have explained to him is, that every action has it's effects. I live an open life to show my children real life consequence; discipline or reward, this allows me to give them examples of our family's choices and the results of them. When we choose good over bad our hearts are joyful not anxious and in fear. I believe I have showed Luke right from wrong time over that if I should slack and miss an opportunity to train, he knows well enough when his heart is bothered because of a poor decision. My munchkins know  to always pray when their hearts are heavy, ask forgiveness, give it to God and move on. I hope after discussing this with him now and as an ongoing conversation throughout his life, he grows into a mature and awesome adult, who understands that all his choices will have consequence.

Partner up

Everywhere we go my children partner up. Its imperative. While at one of our Colorado events I was able to give my children a real life example of what can happen when we are not accountable to one another. A mother with tears rolling down her face was standing with an officer and my heart went out. After saying a quick prayer I showed my munchkins the woman and explained to them what she was asking the officer to help her with. She had lost one of her little guys. This a real situation that could happen to anyone, I explained. Right now a child is lost, he might be having a blast and not realize he has been separated yet, he might be scared, or confused, or some idiot may have decided he wanted him for himself, the point is the mother is a wreck and she no doubt feels at fault. It is an awful feeling every mother feels when something they know they are responsible for goes wrong. So I share all of this with my munchkins because it is that important for them to know the real consequences on both sides when we are not accountable.

Clean up your mess

My children understand the importance of cleaning up after ourselves,the peace and self-respect that order brings. So when the Holy Spirit showed me how to use that great perspective in a recent lying situation I was in awe myself. Souriya and Lance had a dispute that I addressed where one of them had lied. I did not know yet who. So I explained to them the same way we clean our house, we need to clean our hearts. We should own up to our mistakes the same way we own up to our messes. You bring a toy out you put it away. You make a mistake you take responsibility and take it to the cross. Souriya had made the mistake. After sharing this revelation she was convicted, in tears she turned to her brother apologized for taking from him and lying about it. He wrapped his arms around her and they hugged... Forgiveness is good for both people.

Just sayin'

When you are slacking it is really hard to tell your story, so humility must play a part. Summer is here and waking up is slow to happen in the mornings. We head to bed much later than regular and that calls for much later starts in the mornings, in turn leaves no time for my blog. I do hope to find a happy medium and continue through, however it looks like summer time blog posts may few and far between. 

Reward

At home and building tents with whatever is found, the children are like architects. Fail to try again at a new build, but Luke gives up. "Mama, I'm done, can I color on the window?" I told him sure, if that's what you want to do. Well the tent is complete and standing strong, you can go in and out without it falling down, and Luke is in awe. "Wow, guys!". He looks at me wanting to ask if he can change his mind. "Luke, this what we call reward, they kept going wanting the end result, they did what they said what they were going to do." Then Souriya shouts out " We have plenty of room Luke, come on". Play time resumed... until Lathan woke up!

This post sucks

This posting is difficult but helps me share how important it is to build your children up always and never, never, never break them down. My daughter writes well. She prefers to draw, but with her Literature and Language Arts courses, she writes. Her papers are well organized and fluid, but this particular topic was only brainstormed. "Most important person", she has a list. The first person on this list was Joshua, my ex-husband, her father. Then the list continues, 2. Daddy Oscar 3. Mom 4. Aunt Sarina 5. Uncle Steve. There were bubbles she needed to fill in to help develop this topic. She labeled them this way; Crazy, Hard on me for a good reason, and Loves me. Souriya used a scale for the topics of 1-10, 10 being the best. I stay away while she writes because I don't want to influence her thought process, so when she asked me for help, I explained as usual, that she should do the best she can, whatever she ends up with will be great, (aside from correcting grammar ect.) no matter what because it will be hers. She seemed to continue to work but after just a bit came to me and asked again, "Mom its just one question", "Ok", I replied, "ask me". At this point I had no idea what assignment she was working on because she had moved on without my knowing. When I reviewed what she had so far as notes I was shocked! Souriya listed her order as mentioned above with Joshua number one on her "Favorite People List",  but the question she had, made me hold back tears. She didn't know how much he loved her. This child is loved beyond measure, she has a Daddy she considers her Prince, and yet even tough the position is filled well, because her Father Joshua slacks in his department she seems to lack in her adequacy. I don't share this for any other reason but to give a real picture of how much our munchkins need to be reminded how awesome they are, what their potential is, and WHO they are! Sometimes because of my pride I find it hard to ask my children their forgiveness but because of hard reminders like this, I am reminded of how important my relationship is with them, and swallow it quick. I know our reward will be there when it is needed. The reward of that solid foundation to fall on; how much I love her and how much she knows it!

Your money being held by the Government

There are the ones who help you find this money and then make you aware of it too. They ask for a small percent in return for getting you cash you would have otherwise written off, or never even known you had. There are some who ask for this percent not in writing, but instead your word.  There are those who have agreed to the finder’s fee with their word and never paid up. After my best friend’s husband became aware of his money and met up with the woman to pay her the fee,  she had shared her story; retired she wanted to make a little bit of extra income, ordered the program, and got to work. Mailed 800 letters with many responses and 60 people who followed through with the additional paperwork she sent to be filled out and filed. These 60 recipients enjoyed the refund of their money, but only two, are people of their word. This part is very sad. You better believe I shared this story with my children and let them know we are either honorable or not, we are either trustworthy or not, people of integrity or not, those who choose not to stand by their word will have it returned to them, it will be when they most need it and not understand why it is happening to them, huh, we reap what we sow. I pray for the hearts that received and did not give, that they remember and be softened.

Stay on the right

We enjoyed Territory Days this year on the last day, an event that takes up a few blocks with lots of vendors, (visual) and thank goodness we did. To me it's like driving, stay on the right side to travel in whatever direction you are heading, it helps tremendously for all who are taking the same road. When trying to explain to my children that it's not very considerate to fight traffic or hold it up by standing in the middle of it, in turn, opposing rightful commonsense, I almost felt like I was judging these people and I guess I was. Without being terribly rude, maybe they are unaware... or just don't care about the inconvenience of others, either way it is situations like these that I try with a sincere heart to make my children conscience of, it allows them to make the better choice and see the benefit to all. 

A bit ill

This morning was not the greatest. It began late in the evening last night. After spending the day away and having Grandma and friend hang out while we were away, we came home tired. We all know how much fun it is to listen to all the new stories our munchkins have while we are away and so we just sit and listen. Easy does it, I pick up Taco Bell and to say the least none of my munchkins feel fantastic this morning. Oscar was not interested in Taco Bell so he ate leftovers. This is a good thing considering he is at work right now. Cleaning bodies and beds and trying to stay awake at the same time can be difficult but this is what credits us the title, "Mom".

Pocket full of kisses

How many times has your little guy come for "just a kiss" to make it all better. How powerful is the kiss that has so much tender love in it. It is amazing what a difference a pocket full of Mom's kisses make in day. Even if I am at a distance, I just holler, "Do you have any kisses left?". I kiss the inside of my munchkin's hand bunches of times and then they put them in their pockets, VIOLA, remedy all.

Breakfasts saving grace

One day at a girlfriend's house she had shared with me a passage in a book; making sure her dishes were done before bed showed great character. Well, if we really look at that statement we would no doubt find real truth. Most evenings, my dishes are done however, there are many days it does NOT happen. These are the mornings I need my saving grace. We are an eggs and beans breakfast household with the occasional hot cereal, like oatmeal, but, like this morning when I went to reach for that pot to make what I wanted, oatmeal, it needed to be washed. I thought it funny that I immediately remembered my girlfriend's words. So, cereal it was, my saving grace and one of my children's delights.

Peanut M&Ms and $5

We like to eat sushi and Musahi's is where we go most. Whenever we go somewhere that there is more adult activity than child, I remind my children what is expected of them and how we respect those around us while there. We are always grateful for any compliment we receive on our children's behavior, and delighted when our children see their reward in hand. How awesome it was when at the DMV and a young man asked if my children had allergies to peanuts that he may give them a gift for their great attitude and conduct. At Musashi's it was a great joy when guest were leaving the table across from us and an older man was sure to stop hand Luke and Levi $5 each and asked that I pass down the other two bills to Souriya and Lance. Wow! I love, love, love it when my children see from others how appreciated their they are. I encourage my children to be appreciative of the gift but to remember we behave in a godly and respectable manner to show honor.

My bubble

My bubble allows me to conduct myself without fear of how the world behaves. I try hard to hear and listen to the Holy Spirit, read the Word of God and know what he says, take all information and line it up with God's Word, always believe in the good, and stay away from garbage. My best friend noted today on how ignorant I am in regards to world events. Truth is I am always reminded how naive I am about things that don't directly effect me and my household. There are days when I feel like I missed out and should have known, but today is not one of them.

Always and forever, just not all the time

It has been a blessing to have friends that I can call on for advice or help that I don't see or talk to all the time. The friendship is real, so daily activity is not a must. Both sides of the relationship know we lead our own lives and how busy they get, that it is respected and understood. I have appreciated the not so random phone calls and e-mails to see how I am if there is anything needed. My friends are great and I am honored to have such an awesome circle.

Danger Will Robinson danger

Shake, Screech, Hiss, Grind, Grind, Grind!
My brother says, "Maybe I should take a look at that".
"No, I need it, don't take it apart, then I will have nothing", I reply.
My girlfriend stops by and reacts in concern, "Wow, Angelina, you think you should take care of that?" No time left my washer BROKE! Why didn't I listen? It is not as if they were the first two people to comment and "warn me". I had a washer full of soaking wet clothes and no way to take care of them, except to ring them out the best I could and... the details. We all know how a wonderful incident like this really changes the dynamics of our day so why don't we consider this with every new arrival. I hope that I will. I am glad to say that the silver lining here was that we had the money to pay for a practically new washer and dryer, they match my kitchen appliances, and see that God always provides.

Wishy washy

My daughter had a girlfriend stay over and I was privileged to listen to a conversation that went on between them. It seemed that her friend was having some trouble with a student at school. She shared the situation with Souriya and Souriya replied, "You must be strong and not let other people's words bother you, if she says she is your friend, than tell her she has to be a good friend, not a wishy washy one, because those are not real friends, those are people who make you feel uncomfortable, stay away from her, don't let her get to be around you. I wish I could give you verbatim, but Wow, right? I hope that her view on friends has come from the relationships and conversations she witnesses with me, but if it is elsewhere, my sincere, "thank-you" goes out to whoever! I applauded her courage after her time spent was over, and reminded her that some people would not have been brave enough to say such encouraging words, and always remember herself to stay strong and take inventory of her circle of influence regularly.

Congratulations Sheena!

My little sister has just had her second munchkin, who I might mention did not come into this world being little himself. Weighing in at 8lbs and a length of 21 inches. She nursed him well in her womb with those numbers. Ring... ring... over and over waking me up confirmed it was not a dream. My sister had called to let me know that she had delivered her little guy. Passing the phone to my Mom, she seemed well. My mom explained to me that there had been a little complication but all was good now. I am so excited!!!!, to see him, love on him, and just get my hands all over that baby's body!

Meanie

Whenever I find myself slacking as a mother, I become a meanie. It is when I am diligent to be mindful of my children's attitudes and behavior that our home seems to run smoother. When I allow my munchkins to slack on what I expect of them, be sure, they will slack. It sucks for them when I see "Oh my goodness, how lazy you are being, Angelina". The reason it sucks is because I am harsh when I slack, feeling as tough I need to catch up. It is wrong that they must endure my attitude and it is not their fault. I must ask forgiveness from them as I expect them to ask of others when in the wrong. This cleans the slate for me, the same as I do for them and shows them real life accountability, and how to be responsible for future decisions in their own life.

Clutter

I have always liked the idea of being organized but must say its never been my strong point. This year has been a little different. Credit to my husband for giving me a real lifestyle of what that looks like. I still have messy days and my counter tops still need cleared from pile up at times, we wont even talk about how I love reorganizing my room and making a mess of it. This year, tough, I have continued to pursue this lifestyle with zeal and I really like what my Life is looking like. You are told that each part of your like flows into another and I am able to see this NOW.

Aware

Whenever we come home or leave the house there are certain things that happen without say so. For example; the kiddos know that as they walk in the door they remove their shoes, pick them up and walk to their rooms to put them away, as well as hang up their jackets and put away their beanies. Yet, there are times where a child is distracted and the beanie is nowhere to be found. It does not happen often, at least not for them all. Luke does not seem to grasp the idea of ever knowing where his beanie among other items is so, I have decided to have him wear it all the time. Yes, all the time, minus a shower he has it on all day and night. It is my hope that he will miss it when I do allow him to remove it, or at least know where it is. Its an issue even for us as adults; where are my keys, did I leave my wallet here or there, so on and so forth. My desire here is that Luke is aware of his surroundings, be it his location or where something he has is.

Prepare them and see results you like

Sarina has all my munchkins today while I work my business. She even has Lathan my 14month old baby. When going to her chiropractic appointment this morning she did what is so important and necessary to receive results anyone would be looking for. She prepared them for the environment they were going into and what she expected of them while they were there. This woman, mind you, winds my kids up to let them go, but when she expects cruise control, she gets it. They honor and respect her; they look to please her, because they see her love them in all her actions. So her reward was hearing; “I have had a lot of kids in here before but none so well behaved”.

Action and Consenquense

I asked my son Lance to bring me the Laundry from his room, and he brought me as much as his hands could carry and then got distracted. He also figured that his brothers would be bringing me laundry too so he had no intention of getting back on task. When I noticed that there was much more laundry than he had brought to me I called him to discuss what had happened.He explained that he was distracted and so on. I explained to him, that had I not followed through and found that he had more laundry he would have gone the entire week without this or that for clothing. I want him to feel the real consequences of his action in the safety of home rather than for the first time in the outside world. We talked about how he would wear the same clothes for the next 7 days and why. Not because it was punishment, but because this is what would have happened on his own. Of course it is the hope that it wont happen later because he will really know by remembering what this was like. I want him to have a real sense of his action and their consequence. It gives a child the ability to begin to take responsibility for whatever choices they make, now and later.

BE a Proverbs 31 Woman

A excellent woman who can find?
Make a choice, and BE one, because she is far more precious than jewels.
She works with willing hands and makes good things happen. She uses her free will and good judgement to see that her family has a great future. She is healthy and strong to the benefit of her home and relationships with her husband, sons, daughters, and all who are her loved ones. She believes in whatever business she takes on and knows that it is profitable. She looks for opportunity to take care of those in need. Prepared is her middle name for the sake of her household. The best is what she looks for in quality to give to her family. Integrity allows her truth without dishonor. Her tongue is wise and soft at the same time, only permitting her ears to hear praise of others. Her children adore her and admire her sacrifices for them. Her fruit comes from her own hands, blessed by the Lord.

Shout Out

We had a whole days hard work yesterday and those always feel good! It started with something that I had told my kids a while back. I normally don't say anything about anything that we might do or a place we  might go because it bothers me that they wait for one thing and then it doesn't happen. Now, I am not saying our days are not fast pacing and always changing, just not with "yes" we will do this today. I thought that letting them know that I would have a fort of some kind before a specific date would help me move along with getting it accomplished. Well things happen, like your husband might burn all the wood with a buddy cause they had no purpose for it anymore, it might. Anyway, I have a neighbor who just happen to be trying to move some wood from her yard, as well as trash and metal. We made a day of it! About two hours of sorting the pile up, the rest, moving it here and there. My son Lance was a great help, he stuck with me all day, Souriya, gave up a lot of play time to take care of Lathan, Luke and Levi got their hands dirty after having a bit of fun with my neighbors kids and Zoe. My adult help, Zack, Sarina, Julie, and Ken! I loved how well yesterday played out and a real tired you get after completing a good sized task. Thank-you so much!

Done deal

A girlfriend of mine gave me a call yesterday and we talked about a situation she was dealing with concerning her daughter. She let  me know how I might handle the situation aside from tanning their hide. I am not one for time out, in any way. One of the reasons for this is because when an issue arises, I want to deal with it and move on. If we used time outs both the child and I are stuck for whatever time that "time out" lasts. If you leave the child to themselves during this time, whats the purpose? Real question, have any answers let me know. I prefer to handle it all together right then. There are times where I am not allotted the proper time, but my children know that we will take care of it. Meanwhile, we briefly discuss whatever the issue is and live out life, all is well. One of the worst feelings in my opinion beside confusion, is not know if Mom is mad at you or not. My children behave very different if I lead on at all that I am still upset at them. So, however you decide to handle any situation, just make sure its a done deal. I believe one of my biggest mistakes as a Mom is to forget to love on my child after any incident, large or small.   

Wake up!

Lance and I have just finished a conversation and it is 11:52pm. It started with him standing in our doorway asking me how to say a word. I listened in silence waiting to understand why he was concerned with the pronunciation  of a word three and a half hours after he had laid down. My husband nudged me and said "Angelina he's sleeping." Oh you have got to be kidding me right? Nope, he continued and I found that in his mind as he continued to speak that he in fact had not gone to sleep yet, he was working on his Science assignment; Life in the Tundra. I walked him through his evening and brought him up to speed. I woke him up! Amazing, I'm telling you, we never have a dull moment, us mothers. Well here's to, working nine to five, not!

Gasp!

Is there a word you can say or gesture you make that would stop your kids right in their tracks? Well, for me its a gasp. My daughter likes to write comic strips while we drive around town. She was reading one of them to us and said a four letter word, no not dust, wash, iron, or cook. Hate, was the word and in our home that word is as bad as any four letter word that we know we don't use. Anyway, I gasped while driving and my munchkins stopped. Stopped talking, moving, and I am almost sure they even held their breath a few seconds. The car was silent for what I believe was at least 10 minutes, even Levi. Who I am sure had no idea why everyone was silent only that he probably should follow suit. When arriving at out location, I turned around and asked her, "What in your story would allow that word?" She knew before I spoke to her what was unacceptable, and the remorse was all over her face. We finished discussing how ugly the word is and that it is important to find words to communicate a feeling that are better than the word "hate". Our tongue is our most powerful weapon, Proverbs 18:21 The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

Stay steady

Basic tip, I know, but the truth is, what we consider no brainers are what we need reminded of regularly. How much water do you drink daily, yet it should be the one thing we don't have to think about or convince ourselves to take care of. I have this simple issue with my daughter, Souriya. I know that as she matures I feel like there are things that I no longer need to remind her of; wash behind your ears, pour the laundry soap while the water runs, then add the clothes, keep your books in order, that you will know what subject is where, ect. That is not the way it should be. Just like me, and all that I need reminded of regularly, like drink water, I should have no problem setting her up with. It should be counted as joy to remind her while I still have the opportunity. I know the day is not far off that I can only hope she hears my voice ringing in her ear.

My Life in a nutshell

For those that know me, and would like to leave a comment please, fill in the blanks or make any observation you like.

I was born in California

Moved to New York when I was 6

Here in Colorado, 1991

We were going to Alaska

But…

My older brother said “no”

My Mom had a wander lust

Back to California with my Dad at 13

Not long after…

Here in Colorado again

High School incomplete

Back to California with my oldest brother

            Alas I now live in Colorado

No, I’m kidding I love this place!

I am starting a new page that I will post to occasionally-check it out off to the right of my blog.

Difficult character buliding

I love to see the joy on my children's faces. You know the look I am talking about. Opening a gift they were sure they might not get, receiving candy out of the blue, buying a new outfit with a favorite character on it, oh the list can keep going, and it does. So when one of the simple things need to be taken in order for your little guy to get the picture, it is gut wrenching. At least for me it is. Lance is favored wherever we go, and whatever we do, but I wasn't seeing the appreciation for it, from him. So the other evening while enjoying a dessert that Uncle Steve had given him, he made a bit of a mess on his face, actually, just picture chocolate all over a 8 years old's mouth, chin, cheeks and hands. Ok, so now you have a visual. I looked at him and said, " Lance you are 8, you are very aware of where your food goes, because you seem to be having difficulty cleaning your face when you know that you are a mess I want you to make a decision. The next time there is a treat to be had, deny yourself. My hope is that you realize that it is a privilege to enjoy a treat." Well that day came pretty quick. We just enjoyed Cheesecake and Lance said " I won't be having any of that". My heart sank. Oh, yeah, I forgot Lance, thank-you for honoring me, thank you for having self discipline". I wanted to say, " You know what Lance, you were honest and for that I am going to allow you to have some". That would not have helped him. The reason for self-discipline here was not to be honest but appreciative. Oh, it was hard, it really was but, this lesson will go with him. This lesson will enrich his decisions for the best.

Resurrection

Luke 24:1
Jesus, came to destroy death!
After Jesus rose from the dead, he had many conversations with his disciples. Read them, they are for us, the people of the resurrection. I am a woman of the resurrection. Breath in and out the conversations of new life given to you, the Holy Spirit. I no longer live but Christ lives in me.
What begins in the Spirit, can end in the flesh. This is because somewhere along the way I have lost my awe of him. I don't want to allow the passion to die, I never want to forget there is always more of Him. I want to know Christ, the power of the resurrection, and fellowship in his sufferings. when Paul caught that; all of me, for all of you, it was on!
Romans 8:10-11
You die, his spirit then gives life to your mortal body.
Breath in and out. Take in the Spirit. Breath Him out into the world, salt and light.
No power of man, no scheme of hell can stop the power of Christ, death is destroyed!
If we will just get our hands in the dirt, we can make a difference here in Colorado Springs in 2011. The power of Christ lives in us, we are people of the resurrection.
There is a hole in each of us that only Christ can fill, we were created by him to need him.

HIGH low

There is a game we play here in our home called, HIGH low. We play this game to get a feel of how the kids' day went. It teaches them etiquette at the table. My munchkins see how important they feel when all eyes are on them, its not just Mama says to listen, they see themselves how treating others the way you want to be treated works. The way we play is to go around the dinner table and allow each munchkin to share with us their high experience in the day and their low experience. Some days are real simple, and the dinner table stays quiet. Some days are stories from the heart, there might be a confession, or an apology to someone, yep including Mom and Dad. During these stories we might see how grateful our little guys are for something we didn't realize they even noticed. HIGH low was a game we picked up from a movie, and has been a blessing in disguise.  

Pull Over

Take care of all sour situations as they occur & you will have less of them. Luke and Levi are sometimes easily frustrated. When a situation arises that becomes whining and complaining that I address, next time isn't square one, it's just a reminder of the last situation & how it played out.
A light bulb goes on.
With a smile the words, "Oh, yeah" come out of their mouth.
For example, we were driving home and Levi wanted to take off his jacket, he was having trouble, he began to get upset. I could hear his fit, and immediately pulled over right out of traffic. Turned around and explained to him that he would never get his jacket off with that attitude. I also explained to him why; his energy was being consumed by anger. So for the next 5 minutes we stayed parked in a lot, calmed down & gained our self-control. He figured out how to take off his jacket. His attitude went from awful to fantastic, partially because I gave him the command to make the choice and change it,  the other part because HE witnessed for himself that calming down and using his energy to remove his jacket was much better than being angry and getting nowhere. Next time he gets frustrated, be it putting his laundry away, trying to fit all the books on the shelf, or whatever, I will remind him of his jacket and I already know what response to expect. It's Wonderful!

Consistency 2

 

Improving your day with your munchkin

Consistency 2

Another Thursday

Today is that day during the week that it is just Lathan and I. I love this one on one that I am able to spend with him, I am grateful for it. It allows me to increase his ability to communicate without being called to another task, where I am needed with my other guys. Our signing is coming along wonderfully as well as potty training. This is where more time at home is required. I do not mind that at all. So here's to "Thursday"!

A good authority for a childs good future

I receive obedience from my children because I am their authority. When I give a command I expect a response that suits the command. When it is less than what I anticipated, we asses the issue take care of it, and move forward. I love that we can move forward without icky attitudes. In our home it is important to me to help all of my children know that with the attitude they choose to behave with, they effect their atmosphere. I want them to know that they have the power to lighten a load, make a day joyful, help someone else see the silver lining, but only if they see if first. I can only teach them this if I can show them first hand results, a life they live. So showing them that a fight against good authority just to have their way only brings them down, and holds up life. They must choose to have a joyful heart and do all things without whining or complaining.

Tough

My children and I have had a rough day. Staying on task can be trying when you have 5 different personalities and you try to accommodate each one. When I find myself looking to be my babies friend and parent, I find myself falling off track, away from my responsibilities. I know that our future and their success will allow the friendship to blossom because of the parent I am in the present. I do let this fact fall to the way side occasionally for lots of reasons, one is because of the fun we have when we let loose. Who doesn't like to laugh a little longer with their child, but the truth is I need to remember who I am to them. I want them to know that I am the one who sets the safety zone, I show them what is right and wrong, I hold them accountable to their actions, I expect nothing less than the best. The friendship that we will have because of the life I set them up for will fall into place... I only need be reminded sometimes.

We are always busy

So much going on around the house, finishing the school year, potty training, reorganizing for Spring, remolding here and there, trips out of town, now and up coming, and so much more. Summer is on its way, right? Yes, but no, that is not why there is so much going on. There is always this much going on, I only notice when I am behind. Yep, behind. There are many things that are done outside of taking care of my husband, children, and home. Right now in particular I am in a race against time to complete more than I am prepared for. I have a business, and in that business I have learned that the best way to win or get it done is to be prepared. So today I will be evaluating my current schedule and realigning items in my day to better be prepared for a great finish on tasks that will all be completed.

Missing in action MIA

The last few days in our home has been a little more than chaotic for us. I know some would tell me that I am exaggerating but compared to our regular routine it has been crazy. Lathan sleeping in his own bed has been the cake of it all. I also started to train him in using the restroom, so done with diapers except for at night.

Kerplunk!

Last night Lathan fell out of bed. So he spent the remainder of our sleep time with us. This is very unusual. It does happen occasionally. The reason that I avoid this route of consoling him is because I don't want to encourage this as the regular routine. Tonight will let me know if I have created a problem for myself. If I have then it sounds like I will sleep a little less than regular for about three days getting him back into bed and staying there.

Don't talk back

I find that with Levi, my 4yr old, I am correcting his behavior in talking back more often than I have ever corrected any one of my other guys. The reason for this is because I allowed him to talk back at an early age and did not regard it as bad behavior. Levi is a darling, really he is, however darling is not going to get him a great job where he can succeed and prosper. His personality is through the roof boisterous, no doubt. It is when that personality decides that he is right you are wrong, or his course of action is better than yours that the great personality turns ugly. He is a child, who of course wants his way, and has managed to make that happen more often than I would like to admit. I am seeing now in his defiance at my commands that if a new behavior in obedience is not established he will be manipulative, and abusive to his own satisfaction as an adult. Being aware of this makes me more than accountable. I have made a point to cut this action off immediately each time he talks back. Now, when he decides to oppose my command, I tell him to stop talking and obey. Mind you, he does try to override the command. It is up to me to remain calm, (I have trained him to talk back, it's not like I should be surprised or upset that he is not listening the first time, YET), and repeat myself with a pop in his hand until the command is obeyed. Because there is no anger and I am consistent he eventually, lets up and go of the excuses, and follows through on the command. This always proves for a better day, especially, because my kiddos see that I look out for them, and what is best for us as a family. Oh, how that plays a huge role in our home.

Off Limits

Now that Lathan is walking and taking a regular tour of his home. I am taken back to the very days that we needed to train Souriya, in areas she was allowed to be in. This began in our home of course where the kitchen and the bathroom were off limits. Even at the skating rink Bosanova, we needed to make sure she didn't travel out the front door or into the snack bar area. Ten years today, I am training Lathan not to go down the hallway, onto the entry way tile, pass the kitchen into the laundry room, or outside without a hand. I simply pop his thigh when he crosses a boundary, tell him no and send him in the right direction. It always is so amazing to see their minds start to work when they hit that borderline and ask themselves, "Is it worth it?" Well the truth is yes, for a few times it is. Honestly they look forward to seeing you be consistent. Are you really watching me, Mom? I like our rule, " One toy at a time". If I let Lathan take that regular tour, the kids remind me about our house rule. They are referring to all of the toys throughout the house that Lathan drops off after he is bored with them. Showing him areas he is off limits too helps me respect my children and follow through on the rules that have been set. Lathan has his allotted toys in the living room where I can see him, and he is expected to respect the rule too by staying in the area allowed and playing happily.

Sweet sleep

This is so sweet! Today was a perfect Sunday. Enjoyed the early Service, and purchased a new mattress! I know right, how exciting is that?! Except the mattress that we purchased was for Lathan, my 15 month old. Yes, tonight is his first night in his own "big boy" bed. My husband and I made a small wager as to, if he would stay in bed and not test the waters of having no walls to keep him in one place well, I won. I have never been one to pick up my little guys once I have laid them down for sleep. He is well aware of what bedtime means so, I am so excited to say that Lathan is enjoying that sweet sleep and never left the bed, not once.

Thank you God!

It is very important that my children know where there strength comes from, the real stuff that they can keep calling on and doesn't end. God! I always teach them to talk with him early on, like, from birth. I want them to know that he is Real, Good, and looking out for them. Some might call it your conscience, I call him the Holy Spirit. I was finishing up dishes today while Levi, my 3 year old, was trying to perfect his penmanship with numbers. He was trying hard to make that 3 look good, and kept asking me to help him. I would stop dishes and come his way to help. After a back and forth from dishes to him more than a few times I asked God if I could get these dishes done, no more than a minute later Levi belts out " Thank you, God!".  "Mom, I asked God to help me and he did, so now you don't have to he finishes my way. An answer to both of our prayers. Dishes done.

Sit still in motion

Yesterday was Thursday, this is the day in the week that all minus one child goes with Aunt Sarina. I wanted to take care of my nails before too long had passed since my last rebase. Off to Mystic Nails with my tech Snow I went. I had Lathan with me and I wondered how well he was going to behave. There was a woman who was sitting next to me who was just about finished who seemed very interested to see me with Lathan on my lap, as she commented "He's a cutie", then continued to watch. Then a couple of ladies walked in just after me and were getting pedicures across the way as they conversed and would take a look every once in while to see how Lathan was behaving too. After a bit a new woman was sitting next to me to have her nails taken care of and said to me how well behaved my guy was just sitting there enjoying his view, not touching anything. The best was, the two ladies who were there with me the entire time. One had said to the other, "Have you seen this little one this whole time he has been so good.", "Yes, I have.", she replied. I shared with them that I was diligent about training before today in hopes that when wanted or needed  I would be able to enjoy these results. Thank you Lathan. 

Simple, but great!

I really really appreciate my great days. Today we were up and moving around 6:45, that was a little later than I should of. We ran a few errands early and then met Sarina for breakfast. Had a girlfriend say hello as she was passing through town, (beep, beep), and went shopping. My kids love grocery shopping. They look forward to heading to Costco, where if no one is in the isle with us, they run to gather speed and slide to the end, and Wholefoods, where they love all the treats that are available throughout the store. They help unload it all from the car to the house and then put it all away, including Lathan, he likes to collect all the bags. Filled in the rest of the day with school work, WII and outside playtime, as well as help and time from my big brothers, Oh and not to forget... Survivor! Lathan fell asleep very early today and so when bed time came for the others, my request to respect Lathan sleeping made for silence. It was like they were already in bed while they brushed their teeth, washed up and put their PJ's on. Simple, I know, but it makes for a really great day!

Results

My morning has been fantastic due to a wonderful training session that endured outside the Western Omelette. Lathan watched our server lay all the food on the table, you could see his excitement, considering he really had not eaten any full meals in the past few days. I thought for sure that he was ready to speak to us. Nope, as soon as I asked him if was hungry or if he wanted to eat, sparks flew. I know none of us go out to eat and pay to listen to a mother train her child while he rages for victory, so, Lathan and I left. I do not think that I would have entered the situation had I not been with my best friend. Sarina stayed inside with my other munchkins while I went to the van with a bowl of pancakes and eggs. We sat in the van and I would ask him to sign eat, "No" he would hollar back, by shaking his head and yelling.  It was probably 40 min with just Lathan and I, then a total of almost two hours before we left the parking lot. Today he will sign with no issue, however there is still so much more to work on. I love him and the victory we have together for better days ahead.

Headache

I received a horrible headache yesterday and am still trying to shake it. Today I am moving around and making my Monday happen but very slowly. My kids are always more than well behaved when I am not feeling a hundred percent, and I am so thankful for it. Souriya has always been my helper and looks forward to anytime she can really be hands on, especially making sandwiches, setting the table, and cleaning up. Lance is pretty self sufficient, he loves having a checklist though. Luke and Levi are real buddies, so quiet (shh, mom is not feeling great) organized (lets just stay here in this area) playtime seems to be the norm when I am not up about and all around. Lathan well, he'll hang out primarily with me and then a bit with Souriya. My oldest has of course the most responsibility and I am glad she sees it as a treat, most of the time.

Consistency

Improving your day with your munchkins

Consistency

A listening ear

When I talk to my friend, I am not looking to her for a solution. I really just want my voice to be heard without judgement. We are all familiar with wanting to vent. It is not always easy to vent to our husbands because they tend to feel like we are nagging and want them to "fix" it, just in case that is not the case with anyone else I'll speak for myself. So having a healthy circle of girlfriends has been a constant for me. Anyway, I had a conversation that has played out over the past few days regarding what was expected when we vent to one another.
1. Let us speak until we are done, unless...
2. We need a reality check, then...
3. Cut us off immediately and...
4. Show us the picture, standing from outside the circle, otherwise...
5. Just listen, we don't have to agree and we are allowed to give our perspective, but ultimately loving one another unconditionally is what the other is looking for. All of our flaws, and weaknesses too. Excepting each other for who we are, we need a healthy circle of friends we can rely on, yep, rely on to be our listening ear.

Results

Last night I slept right next to Lathan. He was so defiant yesterday that when I would sign "more" or "food" he would remove my hand from my mouth or separate my fingers, then turn his head and yell at me. This action receives discipline in the form of a pop. We sat together for hours on the kitchen floor and Oscar was in company encouraging Lathan. Lathan gave in, he signed "more" and ate dinner, but was adamant about holding out on "drink" and "water", so he went without. Every night he says goodnight to his siblings and his father, not last night. He was absolute. So without his warm milk before bed he and I fell asleep. This morning came and amazingly he still would not say, "milk, eat, or drink". Anytime that I would suggest it, he would smile, walk away, and play with his toys on the floor. Babies are amazing, amazing, amazing! My son knew exactly what game he was playing at. He went without all morning and gave no argument about it. Lunch came and he gave in again, "eat" he signed, "more" came right after his mouth was empty. Hurray! Yet, it has not been consistent, later when he wanted water he went right back to refusing to ask. Like I said, its a work in progress, and well worth it. I have a strong willed child, if its worth it to me to raise a great man, it will show in his character. It will show that I took the time, sacrificed what others might find silly to give up and make my children the priority, otherwise, I believe, I will fail him.

"Nope"

Lathan is not happy this morning. He wants to see what he can get away with. We work on ASL here in the house. He knows and uses his words regularly in sign. This morning he wants more and the way he is asking for that is by pushing me quiet literally in the direction that he wants me, in the kitchen to the counter where his food is. He would normally ask by putting his fingers together and applying them to his mouth. Nope not today. I have even reminded him of how we ask. "Nope" is his hand gesture by yanking his hands out of mine. The battle has begun. I will edit this post as decisions are made and there is a final out come... He cried and screamed, but no action with the hands. This went on for 3 hours, mind you he would show proof that he knew exactly what I wanted him to say and then would stop and scream at me when I showed him I was excited for good behavior. With his half hearted hand gesture I gave in, bad idea, really it is. I sat him down in his chair at his table and  put his bowl in front of him and he gladly filled his cheeks. However later at lunch he did sign no problem with Aunt Rina at Il Vicino, but trying to have him same more was just as difficult as this morning. A work in progress.

Blah!

Monday's are really not my Monday's. Tuesday's are more like my Monday's. Today has been hectic. Going to sleep late was not helpful considering I could have woke up a little earlier today. Today Lathan has gone without his bottle and only used his sippy cup. This has caused for a more than usual grumpy baby. He of all my munchkins is my extremist. He does not have a middle mode, he is either happy beyond measure or not happy. If you want to call tired and doesn't care if he sleeps in your arms, his car seat, or a bed, middle ground then I guess he does have one. So with today being his second day away from the bottles that he discarded, and my Monday, it has been a little exhausting. I went nowhere today, stayed in my PJ's & enjoyed snow this morning that was gone by noon, and that part I am excited about. Happy Tuesday!

So ExCiTeD to have updated my blog!

Ohh how much fun! A shout out to my brother Joey, for 3 simple little words; "click and type". I did just that and have had a few changes to the blog that have been so much fun! Keep a look out for fun new additions here and there. I look forward to any new ideas as always, as well as comments on new and old posts.
Adiós
Angelina

Be a Farmer

1. Prepare or break the soil
Soften your heart to the Lord for great things to be done in and around you.

2. Sow the seed
Read the Word, know who He is.

3. Water the seed
Like you eat to feed your body regularly, read, talk about,and write down to continue your growth with the Word.

4. Pull the weeds
When anything that will take away from given time to priorities starts to become "the priority" it needs to be squashed or pulled out. I have found that listening to the Holy Spirit here is best, really. Meaning when I debate the Holy Spirit, I find myself justifying unacceptable activity.

5. Wait
Patience is a gift from the Holy Spirit. Do what needs to be done in order to receive the rewards and let what happens beyond the visible eye take place; while you wait. Don't time God you'll get bored, or be unprepared, either way its better to just go on about your business and let Him take care of His part, the part you trust and believe Him for.

6. Reap the harvest
Enjoy and remember this part regularly, it has helped me when I get discouraged, reminds me that He is always there and brings Him glory!

*Posting inspiration thanks to Service this morning.

What Schedule?

It has been a little different since Oscar has taken the new job. Hours are not 9-5, then sometimes they are. I do enjoy him coming home later than 3o'clock, then sometimes he is home earlier. Coming home later allows me to really feel like the house is in order before he arrives. That is one of my great joys. I love a clean and orderly house; this was not the case in past years. Today he is home with us and then possibly off to work this afternoon. There have been so many benefits even in this first month; there have been days that I am really thrown off too, and that can be a benefit on days that I needed a new spin, and sometimes I am not happy that I did not know he was going to be home with us. Like I said it has it been different.

The story of stuff

I was checking out a bit of you tube last night found a great "BIG PICTURE" video.

Here it is http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9GorqroigqM&feature=featured

The reason it was important to me to post this on my blog was because we are raising the next generation for either poverty or prosperity. Those terms don't need to be attached to tangible items only. I need to consider what I'm leaving for my children's children. It needs to be a conscience decision not to make poor decisions that will effect our future generation. This video helped me see the big picture and be able to show my children too. I had them write down their thoughts after watching the video to see how they processed it. My four year old drew a picture of mountains being blown up, he explained to me that "they make aliens from that stuff they take from the mountains and it makes muscle ones that go into the sky.". You will need to watch the video to understand his four year old statement.

Helpers

 

Improving your day with your munchkins

Helpers

Wedding Bells

A new name for the same as always woman. It was a joy to watch my best friend say I do. I love you and thank you for having me and mine along for the ride.

Bottles

In order to train my little guy to use the restroom, there must be rules with the bottle.
1) The bottle is allowed when laying down and that is it.
2) It must be thrown away by his hands.
Eighteen months old and Lathan should no longer need diapers. I have not had any of my children in diapers past this point so there is no need to have Lathan either. It could be an easy transition, or not, either way I am ready to make this happen. The more Lathan's schedule is set the easier it will be for both of us.
I know when he wakes up he would usually have a bottle before getting out of bed with his diaper change,(6-7am). Transition; he will only have breakfast with us all at the table.
For his nap times I will make sure that he is tired. We will play and learn. With my purpose filled efforts of exercising his energy he will lie down with little fuss and put himself to sleep, without a bottle.
For bedtime time he will have a 4oz bottle and that will last a a few days before he will throw the bottle away. He is very familiar with the trash. He throws away many things throughout the day and even without needing to be told, which shows me that he understands. After the bottle hits the white pail, the diapers are a lot easier to take on.

Loves means...

My ultimate goal is to teach my kids to leave a legacy of who they are in Christ Jesus. A great man who showed us how to love others by living it out for us to see. Love is making the decision that is in the best interest of the person. It can be a great sacrifice sometimes, but even greater reward to know that you made someone's life better, even if just for a moment. I explain to my munchkins that love is a choice on an ongoing bases. I ask them "Will you choose to love?". It is important to me to show them that I love them and God loves them so much more. How wonderful to know that God is proud of them and loves them the way they are and so much  more to continue their growth into mature men and women. When you know you are loved and someone is looking out for you, how big of a difference does it play in your life? What different decisions do you make because you love someone or you know someone loves you?

Up and Coming Feild Trip

My children have a joy for riding the city bus. We really like taking them too, for what might be considered a field trip.  As far as I can remember, our only mode of transportation was the city bus, through all our years here in Colorado, aside a friend's parent. I wonder if my children had only to ride the city bus all of their days that they would be excited to stand and wait for its arrival, then sit and watch all the activity around them until they arrive at their stop, only to then walk the remainder of what might be left to their destination in whatever weather we Coloradans have that day. I may try this venture in a regular mandated time schedule to give them a new perspective and watch to see if there is a change of heart in their attitude towards the city bus. I would of course hope to see that they would appreciate it even more and all of those who work their life around the bus' scheduled day, and not their own.